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We live in a changing world where relative values seem to be driven as much my circumstances and technology and medicine as by convention. Sarah is 45, a career executive with a human resources group and twice-divorced. “I had to get back to the workplace after a break when my first divorce happened,” she explains, “and I built my own career after that determined not to depend on a man again.”
Sarah’s second marriage to a lawyer lasted just three years. “I am not sure why we got married. It ended up causing both of us a lot of pain and the fact that we failed to keep it together made me incredibly upset. I vowed to myself never to get married again.” That was two years ago and since then Sarah, who admits that she has dated a lot since her last divorce is now considering marriage again. “I know that I said never but six months ago I met this wonderful guy, called Tony, at work and we hit it off. We went out for some drinks which turned into a lot of drinks and a night spent in a hotel. I thought that after that things might fizz a little, after all he’d got what he wanted, but he has not lost interest. He is funny and romantic and exciting and he seems to be really into me,” says Sarah. While all this may sound perfect Sarah has a small worry. “I would be lying if I said that the age difference between us is not a concern for me. Tony is 24 which makes me 21 years older than him. I have kept myself in good shape and right now the age difference is not an issue but if we get married it does worry me a lot. In 15 years I will be almost sixty while Tony will still look great. It is this thought more than anything which makes me pause. I know I love him and he loves me, but love alone is not enough to make things last and if I get married a third time I really want to make it work. Do you think we should the chance and do it?” Tags: 
Comments (2)Subscribe to this comment's feedLoving someone younger
OMG, I am not even sure how to start this answer. Age my be a concern to some and the question pops up for a woman or man that as they get older will they be alone in the end because someone younger will take the other away. I am 51 years old married, my marriage is not in great shape at this time but we are together. The thing is I met this younger guy 26 just talking and being friends the last few months but he has been with me through all the bad things that have been going on.
People have talked about their soul mates and being connected with each other and I always though sure what ever. Well it has come to the point that I know he has my heart and soul like no one else has in my life NEVER, and the connection of being able to feel that person when they are not around can not be put into words. And Sarah should go for it becasue if the love is there that is all that matters. He loves her for herself and the age he is not looking at. Go for it and be in love and happy.
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January 21, 2010
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I know several women that have married younger men and have been together for years, and are still very happy with each other. I am 55.