Sun 07 Feb 2010 |
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 A lot of people associate Saint Valentine’s day with mandatory torture where you need to try hard to be original and pull some sort of mind blowing stunt or you’ll be doomed to fail and the whole world is going to crush you starting with your significant other. Through many years, not without the help of the media, we have been lured into thinking that this particular day must be something out of this world, requiring at least one serious injury due to the strenuous effort involved in getting everything right and a trip or two to the nearest store, buying loads of RED stuff, preferably heart shaped and definitely expensive. With the economy going to hell retailers are no longer even pretending about romance and they are all busy sticking little hearts on their products suggesting that their products are exactly what your beloved would expect to receive from you. Let me see, according to what’s on sale for Valentine’s Day at the moment I should be devastated to get through that day without receiving at least a coffee maker, a can opener or a set of knifes. According to Amazon’s gift guide it’s exactly what I would like. Gifts are nice and no one is arguing over that but we often forget the real meaning of that day and what really makes it special. You. So many times people go down to find a gift, empty their bank accounts and then… nothing. Apart from that Valentine’s is just another ordinary day. Why bother in the first place? Valentine’s was designed for people who wouldn’t be able to otherwise express their feelings for one another, it was meant to pull people closer to each other and remind them how deeply they felt about one another. Nowadays this meaning is lost under the pile of ugly stuffed animals on display everywhere serving as a show of affection for another adult. Love is so special it really doesn’t need a special day on the calendar but since we have one I have to admit it’s cool. It gives us one more opportunity to spend time with each other and let us cuddle in the morning for those 5 minutes longer. It gives us an opportunity to be naughty and make the person we love feel even more special. Some extra attention, some extra time in bed, an extra slice of bread for breakfast, some extra bubble foam in the bath that day are the best kind of present this Valentine’s. We often forget how important it is to spend time together and I am not talking about just being in the same room. Those who read my books know that as it’s not at all the same. Time together is a very special time, it’s precious time spent with someone you treasure what can be better than that? “A coffee maker” – whispers Amazon, but we know that’s not the answer. The best Valentine’s you can have is the one you spend with your special person, cuddling all day long (or at least some of it since it’s not officially a holiday), having breakfast together (preferably in bed), going for a walk and having sex all night after that. Romantic gestures don’t have to be expensive and as a matter of fact the best days you can have with the most gain in terms of getting under each other’s skin are the ones where you barely spend any money on anything. Movies are great but you don’t actually communicate in the Cinema much, it’s an easy way to fill the time together so it’s good for ordinary dates. Spending time with your friends at Valentine’s also is not a very good idea. If you just concentrate on that special person you are in love with you are onto a winner here. The best way to spend Valentine ’s Day is in bed fooling around, talking and having fun in the full meaning of the word, maybe watching a movie in the evening and have a meal you cooked together. There is nothing to panic about when 14th February comes as it’s just another day when you can hold the person you are in love with tighter longer and with greater passion. Be yourself, enjoy yourself and the person you are with, laugh and play and spend as much time with each other as possible. Breakfast in bed, a walk in the park, a coffee break, a romantic comedy and dinner at home in a candle lit room is the best recipe I can give you for this Valentine’s. It’s doesn’t empty your pockets and it brings you and your significant other closer to each other, it makes it special and memorable. And if you haven’t found your love just yet it’s still a good day to express your feelings. Don’t be afraid to tell people you like that you like them or if you are shy do it anonymously, after all this is what Valentine’s cards are for. Maybe on this day you are going to get lucky with someone who will become your Valentine’s for life. After all love is in the air on that special day so take advantage of that! And just to add a little bit from myself to the big day of all those in love I am lowering the price for the Ultimate Guide to The Perfect Relationships to just $2 till 14th of February so that every couple could have a download to enjoy. But please note that this book is designed to be read by both parties, it contains advice and fun and simple ideas on how to make your relationships better when you are both interested in it. I am afraid it’s not going to help you if you are single, unless of course you already know this is not going to be the case for long. Have fun and enjoy each other! Peace and Love. Always. 
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